Investigators receive over 1,000 tips in desperate search for missing 13-year-old Jayme Closs, sheriff says

first_imgABC News(BARRON, Wis.) — Authorities say they have received over a thousand tips, and have thoroughly investigated more than 800 of them, in the desperate search for 13-year-old Jayme Closs, who is believed to be in danger.“We are using every resource available and have conducted hundreds of interviews, multiple searches, and are using the technical and forensic expertise of our state and federal resources to locate the person or persons who committed this offense and to locate Jayme,” Barron County Sheriff Chris Fitzgerald said in a statement Saturday, which marks the sixth day since Jayme vanished.Investigators believe Jayme was abducted early Monday morning after her parents, James and Denise Closs, were shot dead in their home in Barron, Wisconsin.Someone called 911 from Denise Closs’ cellphone that morning just before 1 a.m. local time, and the 911 dispatcher heard “a lot of yelling,” according to records from the Barron County Sheriff’s Department obtained by ABC News. The dispatcher called the number back but was unable to leave a voicemail.More attempts were made, and the phone went unanswered. Authorities also tried calling the home’s landline but it was disconnected, records show.When authorities responded to the home minutes later, they found the front door kicked in and the couple had been shot to death.Their daughter, Jayme, was believed to be home when they were killed but had been abducted by the time authorities arrived.“An entire state has been racked with Jayme’s disappearance, and the death of her parents,” Wisconsin Attorney General Brad Schimel said in a statement Thursday.The sheriff said bringing Jayme home is his “highest priority.” Investigators are “working around the clock” to cover leads, conduct interviews and analyze “an incredible amount of information” related to the case.“Every tip is important,” Fitzgerald said in the statement Saturday.An Amber Alert has been issued for Jayme. Anyone with information is asked to call the tip line at 1-855-744-3879.Copyright © 2018, ABC Radio. All rights reserved.last_img read more

Kelly will bring quality leadership to Spa city

first_imgIn November, I will vote for Meg Kelly for mayor of Saratoga Springs. Meg exemplifies the five “C’s” of quality government leadership.Meg is consistent. Her no-nonsense approach and business savvy produces results on time, every time. Meg is committed. She is determined to continue the path of increasing our citywide green initiative, as well balancing the concerns of our business community. Meg is cooperative. She takes the time to understand conflicting views and regularly offers solutions to competing interests resulting in movement towards stated goals.Meg is caring. Her dedication to assuring inclusion and safety for our immigrant workforce and assuring affordable housing for all is unwavering. Meg is confident. Her transition from business leadership to public service has created unique abilities to serve the city in a collaborative way.Moreover, Meg is creative and willing to build consensus towards a bright future for Saratoga. Vote for Meg Kelly this November and watch Saratoga continue to grow. We need common-sense leadership-consistent, committed, cooperative, caring and confident.Connie SullivanSaratoga SpringsMore from The Daily Gazette:EDITORIAL: Urgent: Today is the last day to complete the censusEDITORIAL: Thruway tax unfair to working motoristsFoss: Should main downtown branch of the Schenectady County Public Library reopen?EDITORIAL: Beware of voter intimidationSchenectady, Saratoga casinos say reopening has gone well; revenue down 30% Categories: Letters to the Editor, Opinionlast_img read more

The Latest: Wake Forest coach Dave Clawson takes pay cut

first_img Associated Press ___The NHL will remain on pause through at least the end of the month.The league on Tuesday announced it was extending its self-quarantine recommendation for players, coaches and staff through April 30. The announcement marks the third time the NHL has pushed back its timetable since suspending play on March 12 because of the new coronavirus.The most recent self-quarantine recommendation was supposed to run through Wednesday. The recommendation means team facilities will remain closed to players.Players and staff were previously given the opportunity to self-isolate at their offseason homes. Clawson signed an eight-year extension with Wake Forest last April. According to USA Today’s coaches’ salary database, Clawson was paid almost $2.2 million last season by the private school.“The COVID-19 pandemic has had a major impact on Wake Forest University and our Athletics Dept.,” Clawson said. ”(Wife) Catherine and I are more than happy to do our part to help during these challenging times.”___Baseball Hall of Famer Greg Maddux spent his 54th birthday live tweeting as MLB Network replayed some of the best performances of his brilliant career. He also was raising money for coronavirus victims.Maddux vowed to match up to $54,000 in donations for virus victims as part of his birthday celebration. The Women’s Basketball Hall of Famer then stated her desire to keep the Bulldogs’ program among the nation’s elite and win a national championship.“My expectations for the program are to continue to build on this tradition and compete for SEC championships and national championships every year,” McCray-Penson said Tuesday during an introductory video teleconference.___The Nashville Predators have raised $2.7 million to help both with tornado and COVID-19 relief.The Predators started raising money after tornadoes hit Nashville and Middle Tennessee in early March. Then the franchise included help for the coronavirus pandemic once the NHL stopped play along with the cancellation of the Southeastern Conference men’s basketball tournament in Nashville. ___The Tour de France won’t begin as originally planned because French President Emmanuel Macron has canceled all public events with large crowds through mid-July in response to the coronavirus pandemic.Tour organizers say it is now impossible for the three-week race to start on June 27 in the Riviera city of Nice as scheduled.It is unclear if cycling’s biggest event will be scrapped from the race calendar. New plans are likely to be announced before the end of the month following consultations with the governing body of cycling.___ The AFC says it “will explore all possible options in order to complete” those groups.___The first women’s professional golf tournament in Saudi Arabia has found new dates in October.The inaugural Saudi Ladies International on the Ladies European Tour was to be played last month but was postponed because of the coronavirus pandemic.The $1 million event will now be played from Oct. 8-11 at Royal Greens Golf and Country Club at King Abdullah Economic City. Share This StoryFacebookTwitteremailPrintLinkedinRedditThe Latest on the effects of the coronavirus outbreak on sports around the world:___Wake Forest football coach Dave Clawson joined athletic director John Currie, university president Nathan Hatch and the president’s cabinet members in taking a 10% pay cut to help the school address revenue shortfalls caused by the coronavirus pandemic. The league had hoped to resume play next month but Germany’s federal political system could allow numerous state and federal officials to obstruct games if they disagree.The league says clubs need extra time to prepare and that any decisions made will be “based on the current political decision-making situation at federal and state level over the coming week.”___The Senior British Open golf tournament has been postponed because of the coronavirus outbreak.The event was scheduled to take place at Sunningdale from July 23-26. More AP sports: and,Tampa Bay Lightning advance to face Dallas Stars in Stanley Cup finals, beating New York Islanders 2-1 in OT in Game 6 All-Star Celtics forward Jayson Tatum says he hasn’t touched a basketball since scoring 30 points in a win over the Indiana Pacers on March 10.“I got weights and bands and a bike to do some cardio,” Tatum said Tuesday after informing Emoni Bates he became the first sophomore to win Gatorade’s national player of the year award in basketball. “It’s tough, but on the other side, I know there are more important things going on in the world,” Since the NBA suspended its season due to the coronavirus pandemic, Tatum has tried to make the best of an extended stay at his home in the Boston area.“I’ve been taking time to relax and be at home with my son every day,” he said in a telephone interview. “I am trying to enjoy this time and the things we usually take for granted.”— AP Sports Writer Larry Lage reporting. ___Major League Soccer says its hopes of returning in mid-May are “extremely unlikely.”In a statement Tuesday, the league said guidance from federal and local public health officials is making it unlikely the league will be able to restart in about a month.MLS says the goal remains to play as many games as possible, but it’s becoming increasingly difficult to potentially play an entire season even if there are enough dates available.MLS currently has a training moratorium for players through April 24. There will be no Golden Spikes Award this year, ending a streak of 42 consecutive seasons.USA Baseball made the announcement Tuesday. It followed the NCAA’s decision to cancel spring sports seasons due to the new coronavirus.Past winners included future NL MVPs Buster Posey, Bryce Harper and Kris Bryant. Bob Horner was the first Golden Spikes winner in 1978.___New Mississippi State women’s basketball coach Nikki McCray-Penson expressed thoughts and prayers for first responders, health care workers and people affected by the coronavirus pandemic and this week’s severe weather that swept across the South. There is no timetable of when play might resume and whether the NHL will be able to complete the regular season or start the playoffs, which could stretch into September. There were 189 games remaining when play was suspended.— AP Hockey Writer John Wawrow reporting.___The German soccer league has delayed a meeting of clubs that was expected to set out a timetable for resuming games in empty stadiums.Clubs from the top two divisions were to meet Friday but that has been delayed until April 23. April 14, 2020 Sean Henry, the Predators’ president and chief executive officer, said Tuesday that commitment to the community is a cornerstone of the franchise and the Predators are trying to help rebuild and provide help for a return to normalcy as quickly and safely as possible.That includes Predators’ owners, players, coaches and management creating a $1 million fund to pay event staff for canceled concerts and postponed NHL games. The Predators also donated $100,000 to the Mayor’s Relief Fund, hosted blood drives and have been delivering meals to Nashville police precincts and Vanderbilt University Medical Center.Predators captain Roman Josi and his wife, Ellie, gave $20,000 to Second Harvest Food Bank of Middle Tennessee and another $20,000 to a local homeless ministry.The Predators also gave donors to the team’s foundation a chance to redirect money to tornado and COVID-19 relief with $700,000 in grants being handed out this month.___ This season’s Champions League and Europa League could resume once domestic titles are decided.The UEFA executive committee last month postponed the European Championship by one year to 2021. Other games affected include World Cup qualifying groups, the 2021 Nations League finals and the women’s Euro 2021 tournament in England.___The Asian Football Confederation says it has postponed “all matches and competitions scheduled to take place in May and June until further notice.”Most of the 32 Asian Champions League teams played two group games in February before the coronavirus outbreak caused a shutdown. The Latest: Wake Forest coach Dave Clawson takes pay cut R&A official Johnnie Cole-Hamilton says organizers are looking at alternative options to host the tournament “later in the year if at all possible.”___UEFA says it will host another round of calls next week for European soccer leaders to address the shutdown amid the coronavirus pandemic.The UEFA executive committee is set to join by video link on April 23. It will follow separate days of calls with UEFA’s 55 member federations and club soccer officials.UEFA is giving priority to completing national league and cup competitions. One contingency plan is for games to continue into July and August and decide entries for the Champions League and Europa League next season. One of the game’s most notorious pranksters, Maddux took the occasion to poke fun at some of his former Atlanta Braves teammates, including John Smoltz.“Who’s watching 1995 World Series Game 1 on @MLBNetwork,” Maddux wrote during a showing of his two-hit masterpiece. “Solid dugout shot when we could see smoltzy with some hair.”Maddux also discussed a disputed call in the pre-instant replay era, which brought longtime Braves manager Bobby Cox out of the dugout to argue with the umpires.“Where’s replay when you need it?” Maddux tweeted. “Great to see Bobby always fighting for his players.”___last_img read more

Check out the Clippers’ giveaways and promotions for the 2018-19 season

first_imgThe month of October will feature these Clipper swag giveaways:Opening night t-shirt (Oct. 17 vs. Denver Nuggets)Magnet schedule (Oct. 19 vs. OKC Thunder)Lou Williams bobblehead (Oct. 28 vs. Washington Wizards)Dates for several child specific giveaways have been announced but the only items reveled were the duffle bag on Dec. 22 and the hooded bath towel on March 3. Clippers vs. Mavericks Game 5 playoff updates from NBA beat reporters Kristaps Porzingis ruled out as Clippers, Mavericks set for Game 5; Follow for game updates Clippers hope they can play to their capabilities, quell Mavericks’ momentum Dates for TBD children items:Jan. 12 vs. Detroit PistonsJan. 27 vs. Sacramento KingsMarch 30 vs. Cleveland CavaliersA number of themed nights and celebrations have been scheduled:80s themed night (Dec. 29 vs. Minnesota Timberwolves)Chinese New Year celebration (Jan. 28 vs. Atlanta Hawks)Black History Month celebration (Feb. 13 vs. Phoenix Suns)Hawaii themed night w/ giveaway TBD (March 11 vs. Boston Celtics)Festival Los Clippers (March 12 vs. Portland Trailblazers)Women’s History Month celebration (March 31 vs. Memphis Grizzlies)Fan Appreciation Day (April 3 vs. Houston Rockets)For the fans who purchase special ticket packages for select themed nights could receive a specialty promotional items along with their ticket.Related Articles What the Clippers are saying the day after Luka Doncic’s game-winner tied series, 2-2 PreviousThe Clippers will give away a Ralph Lawler tribute bobblehead on April 10 before the game against the Utah Jazz. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Los Angeles Clippers will giveaway a shirt prior to the team’s home opener against the Denver Nuggets on Oct. 17. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Clippers will giveaway a magnet schedule on Oct. 19 before a game against the Oklahoma City Thunder. (Courtesy of the Clippers) SoundThe gallery will resume insecondsThe Clippers will honor Lou Williams for winning the sixth man of the year award with a bobblehead giveaway prior to the game against the Washington Wizards on Oct. 28. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Clippers will giveaway a puzzle cub on Nov. 10 before a game against the Milwaukee Bucks. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Clippers will giveaway a tribal pattern hat on Native American Cultural night prior to a game against the San Antonio Spurs on Nov. 15. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Clippers will giveaway a County of LA tote bag prior to the game against the Phoenix Suns on Nov. 28. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Clippers will provide a winter inspired holiday present on Dec. 20 prior to the game against the Dallas Mavericks. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The first 4,000 children ,age 13 and under, in attendance for the Dec. 22 game against the Denver Nuggets will receive a duffle bag. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Clippers will offer this LED wristband on four different dates throughout the season including Jan. 18, Mar. 8, Mar. 15 and April 5. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Clippers will give away a Jerry West bobblehead on Feb. 25 before the game against the Dallas Mavericks. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Los Angeles Clippers will giveaway a hooded bath towel for the first 4,000 children, 13 and under, in attendance for the March 3 game against the New York Knicks. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Clippers will give away a Ralph Lawler tribute bobblehead on April 10 before the game against the Utah Jazz. (Courtesy of the Clippers)The Los Angeles Clippers will giveaway a shirt prior to the team’s home opener against the Denver Nuggets on Oct. 17. (Courtesy of the Clippers)NextShow Caption1 of 12The Los Angeles Clippers will giveaway a shirt prior to the team’s home opener against the Denver Nuggets on Oct. 17. (Courtesy of the Clippers)ExpandThe L.A. Clippers has announced its scheduled giveaways for the 2018-19 season.Among the giveaways are bobbleheads of broadcaster Ralph Lawler, consultant Jerry West and Lou Williams, the reigning sixth man of the year.The Clippers will have headwear to give away in the form of a baseball cap and a holiday beanie.On four different game nights, an LED wristband will be given to fans. Newsroom GuidelinesNews TipsContact UsReport an Error For Lakers’ LeBron James, Jacob Blake’s shooting is bigger issue than a big Game 4 victory last_img read more

MLB trade rumors: Could Yankees target Diamondbacks’ Robbie Ray?

first_img MLB All-Star 2019: Yankees’ Aaron Boone ‘thinks it’s a joke’ Gleyber Torres isn’t on AL roster Longtime Yankees announcer John Sterling ending three-decade streak And, according to The Athletic’s Ken Rosenthal, the team has been interested in the lefty before.Rosenthal wrote in his Wednesday column: Related News MLB trade rumors: Mets will ‘have no issues’ sending Zack Wheeler to Yankees The Yankees have hinted they want to add a pitcher by the trade deadline and there is a starter in Arizona who could be a potential target.Robbie Ray has struck out 129 batters in 98 1/3 innings this year and that alone could be enough to pique the Yankees’ interest. Getting him out of a game early and getting the ball to the bullpen could work very well for New York. At the same time, as Rosenthal suggests, the Yankees could use him as a high-strikeout, middle-inning reliever.Both scenarios are enticing. We’ll see if they are appealing enough to get the Yankees to pursue him.Ray has one year of arbitration left after this season, so he likely will not demand the same return as Matt Boyd of the Tigers. “Lefty Robbie Ray, earning $6.05 million this season with one year of arbitration remaining, would be a less complicated transaction. The Yankees and other teams historically have liked Ray not simply because he is left-handed, but also because his career 28.3 percent strikeout rate is higher than that of Clayton Kershaw (27.4), Madison Bumgarner (23.9) and Patrick Corbin (22.9).”Ray has alternated between being very good and just OK for the last few years.He was fantastic in 2017, going 15-5 with 218 strikeouts in 162 innings, but he threw just 123 2/3 innings last year and posted a 3.93 ERA. Then, this season his earned run average is 4.10. He has also averaged four walks per nine innings in his career.Those aren’t numbers that mirror that of Max Scherzer or even Ray’s teammate Zack Greinke, but they do present an interesting possibility for the Yankees in a couple of ways.For one, the team has such a deep bullpen, New York could use Ray as a two-times-through-the-lineup starter and get him out routinely in the fifth or sixth inning. Ray holds batters to a .210 batting average in a player’s first at-bat and .221 in his second, but it goes up to .291 the third time a player sees him.last_img read more

Is it New Delhi’s time to shine in Africa?

first_imgIndia has age old ties to Africa. Under Narendra Modi, who visited Africa for the first time as prime minister recently, the fastest growing global economy is looking to strengthen those diplomatic and economic bonds. Indian prime minister, Narendra Modi, arriving in Africa ahead of a 4 nation diplomatic visit. (Image: India Today) When he took office in May 2014, Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi inherited a growing economy built on long established trading agreements. Modi is not a traditionalist, he understood that India had an opportunity to flex its trade and diplomatic muscle. Under his leadership, India has become more assertive on the international stage. He has strengthened ties with the USA and the country’s East Asian neighbours.India’s lobbying for a permanent seat on the UN Security Council offers the African countries that Modi is visiting this week (Mozambique, South Africa, Tanzania and Kenya) an opportunity to strengthen the relationship between the continent and India.South Africa is India’s biggest African market, accounting for more than 22% of all goods exported to Africa. We are also the third largest African investor in India, those ventures are concentrated in the service and retail industries.After meeting President Jacob Zuma, 8 July 2016, Modi expressed the hope that India and South Africa would develop stronger ties in the mining and manufacturing sectors. Most important to Modi was strengthening co-operation in the security sector.“Beyond economic ties, and links of business, trade and investment, we can also partner in the field of defence and security. Both, at the level of industry and for our strategic and security needs,” he said.As the sector transformed in India, opportunities would become available to South African defence companies. “Our companies can also pool their capacities to jointly develop or manufacture defence equipment and platforms. And, not just to meet our defence needs, but also to respond to regional and global demand.”It has been Indian policy to work through the UN to promote global peace and security. The country’s peacekeeping operation in Africa, it has provided the largest number of troops to African peacekeeping operations, is part and parcel of its commitment to peace and development on the continent. The four countries Modi visited are all along Africa’s the eastern seaboard and Modi would like to induce them to join in India’s fight against high seas pirates. President Jacob Zuma and prime minister Narendra Modi at the India Africa Summit in 2015. (Image: India Today)As Modi highlighted after his meeting with the president, “Terrorism is another shared threat that puts at risk the safety and security of our people. It attacks the very foundations of our society. The President and I agreed that our two nations need to stay vigilant and cooperate actively to combat terrorism, both in our region and in the world.”Is it India’s time to shine in the African sun?The slow global recovery from the 2008 financial crisis has highlighted the seismic shift in the economic order. Diplomatic and trade relationships between developing countries have superseded traditional north/south trading.Bi-lateral India/Africa trade has grown by 32% annually between 2005 and 2011. By 2015 the partnership generated $90 billion, a major source of growth and employment creation in Africa during the economic crisis.In the year that Modi took office India became the fastest growing global economy, it is the seventh largest economy and the third largest by purchasing power. Modi inherited credit agreements between India and African governments worth almost $18 billion. He extended grant assistance to the continent that covered the India-Africa development fund, a $10 billion India-Africa health fund and 50 000 scholarships for African students to study in India.Trade and co-operation between India and Africa governments have occurred in agriculture, the blue economy, and infrastructure and security sectors. The Indian government has also taken the view that Africa’s growth is good for India and has committed to share expertise and set up training programmes.The Indian private sector has followed the government example and invested heavily in Africa. China is most often recognized as the dominant new trading partner for African states. The Indian private sector has avoided competing directly with Chinese investment in Africa, instead they have chosen overlooked niches, like Africa’s diamond sector. They have overtaken Chinese investment in areas like agriculture, ICT and medicine.Watch: Can India match China’s economic influence in Africa?The new India powerhouse is enmeshed in the Africa Rising narrative. According to the African Development Bank, the continent enjoys a positive trade balance with India. For Africa and India, the relationship has benefits.India has been aggressive in the agribusiness sector especially. Her deep knowledge in areas like small farm mechanization is helping African governments address challenges like food security. In West Africa, Indian know how is helping to save the regions cotton industry, including building factories to process raw material into finished products. Companies like Olam International have also begun to buy up uncultivated land in East Africa to grow maize, palm oil and rice for export to India.Indian companies strengthening ties with Africa gives the continent a new source of growth just as the Chinese economy slows down. These companies are also seen as better corporate citizens. Research done by analytics firm HIS has suggested that India’s soft touch approach has earned it plaudits among African governments who have applauded their environmental records and their policy of employing Africans to staff their business ventures.Historical tiesDuring his visit to South Africa prime minister Modi travelled by train to Pietermaritzburg Station. Infamous as the station where Mahatma Gandhi was thrown off the train in 1893. An event that birthed his lifelong fight for equal rights, a campaign that changed South Africa and India.Modi’s train journey is a reminder of the long and close ties between South Africa and India. Ties forged in the fight for equal rights for all. “For me personally, this visit is an opportunity to pay homage to two of the greatest human souls to have ever walked this Earth – Mahatma Gandhi and Nelson Mandela.“It was in South Africa that Gandhi found his true calling. He belongs as much to India as to South Africa,” Modi said on his arrival in South Africa.While Africa is a region that India cannot ignore, the long history of India’s involvement in Africa has helped grow economic ties. African’s of Indian descent in East Africa are the progeny of the traders that began trading with Africa a thousand years ago. South Africa is home to one of the largest Indian diaspora populations.The diaspora has helped build ties between the continent and the sub-continent. They were the link between African commodities – tea, coffee, cotton – reaching India and the import of manufactured goods. Watch: A bond forged by history.last_img read more

Planning for your Education

first_imgTo learn more about the Montgomery GI & Post (9/11) Bill, visit these – EducationEducation and Training ProgramsMilitary Education Benefits User’s GuideMilitary Families Learning NetworkOverview of Military Education BenefitsTransfer Post-9/11 GI Bill to Spouse and DependentsVeterans’ Benefit Expiration Dates This post was published on the Military Families Learning Network Blog on October 11, 2013. References:Paying for Post-Secondary Education Expenses – Part 1Paying for Educational Expenses and the GI Bill – Part 2center_img By Katie Stamper, University of Flordia Program Assistant and Dr. Michael S. GutterInvesting in one’s education is an expensive proposition and this is not likely to change in the near future. However, a military service member or veteran has options to help combat the costs associated with higher education. Two of these options are the Montgomery GI bill and the Post (9/11) GI bill.The cost of college is rising twice as fast as the inflation rate. While this statistic may be daunting, what is even scarier is the amount of student loan debt which totals one trillion dollars, more than the combined credit card debt. As a general rule of thumb, your student loan debt should not exceed your starting salary. Students can find themselves in debt for a variety of reasons including procrastinating saving money, underestimating the total cost, and not understanding the total cost of student loans.Student loan debt can be eliminated or greatly reduced through two education options available through the military: Montgomery GI bill and the Post (9/11) GI bill. The chart below describes the bills. Understanding these benefits can help someone who may be moving on to consider options for their next career steps. Also, with the Post (9/11) GI Bill, the transferability can make for an important consideration in planning for children’s education or for a spouse who is looking to enhance his or own career prospects through education.To begin the process, submit the appropriate application to the Veteran’s Affairs:Application for VA benefits: 22-1990Dependent of Post 9/11 application for VA benefits: 22-1990Elast_img read more

Mothers tell you how

first_imgVatsala Kaul Banerjee is the editorial director of Children’s & Reference Books, Hatchette India. She has also had stints in advertising and print and is a mother of two – here she talks about how dealing with one’s child’s setbacks is more about fixing oneself than her.You know this prayer:”God, give us grace to acceptwith serenity,The things that cannot bechanged,Courage to change the thingswhich should be changed,And the wisdom to distinguishone from the other…”I didn’t think of this, Reinhold Niebuhr did, and he would’ve made a good mother. After 10 years of seesaw parenting – sometimes up, sometimes down, and sometimes middling – I can say with certainty that dealing with your child’s setbacks is more about fixing yourself than your child… Or it should be.Let’s start with an easy quiz. Tick the ones you think are your child’s setbacks:Poor marksWearing glassesPhysical or behavioural handicapNot being an eager performerThe ones you tick (or don’t) will help you figure out what kind of parent you are. If you ticked all five, I’d say that you have very high, probably unrealistic, expectations from your child. If you ticked one, then I’d say you’re likely to be a happy parent who allows her child his/her imperfections and weaknesses. And if you ticked two-three options, you’d be able to deal well with most of your child’s setbacks.I come of a mother who never let me think that losing vision in one eye at the age of two, and being faced with the prospect of going blind, and then having an extremely ugly squint till I was a teenager, was a “setback”. She didn’t go about it in a feature story “How I went about raising my daughter’s self-esteem” type of way; she just treated me normally and I learned to deal with it. Later, when the squint was fixed, but never quite completely, boyfriends would tell me how beautiful my eyes were, and I never doubted it. It’s all about perception, isn’t it?advertisementSo, when one of my daughters needed glasses at the age of five, sure I was concerned, but more about how she would deal with sports until she was old enough for lenses, and not that she had glasses “already!”. She also hated being on stage – her young, tattooed guitar teacher said it was cool that she didn’t want to learn songs to perform and would rather learn the chords first. It’s strange that I birthed a shy child, but there’s no one quite like her, and that’s fine with me. But of course, when she does badly in tests, I get upset because she knew everything – I’m human, after all, and I give her all the spiel about “doing your best”. And, of course, I hurt when her best friend suddenly decides to dump her at the behest of her mother, because I know my little girl is bewildered by this sudden and cruel change of heart, and I sit down and explain why some people can suddenly go off colour. It’s all part of the life deal. It’s going to happen a lot. Do the run up, hop, step and jump over it.What I would think could be serious setbacks in my children:If they didn’t giggle uncontrollably at nothing at all.If they did not think that 16-yearold Justin Bieber is the best singer in the world.If they did not want to learn new things in life.If they had only one friend.If they thought I know everything better than they do.If they thought everything can be found on/solved by the Internet.If they didn’t still make handmade cards for birthdays.If they didn’t run to get the first rights to hold the maid’s little baby.If they blame things that go wrong on other people all the time.If they say “That’s your problem!” or “So what can I do?”.I know what’s the right thing to do, and I try to get there, sometimes slip-sliding away, sometimes getting there. Every parent has to set the measures for their children – and themselves. Love is more important than anything else, and how to fix a problem and get over a disappointment is the key to waking up smiling next morning, ready to kiss life with a loud smack – and your children, too!Here are my ways of smiling when my children suffer a setback:Read to them or have them read stories of disappointments and achievements. No great person ever became that without both.advertisementHow can you explain the situation to your child so that he doesn’t think it’s a matter of life and death? Figure this out. We’re so involved in making our children smart, that we forget that they are still small and vulnerable.Don’t refuse help and advice, but don’t get pressurised by other parents. Their lives are different; their children are different, and their values may be entirely different, too. Live by yours.Don’t let other people treat your child with pity or sympathy. Tell them politely, and if they don’t get it, talk plain. Get the point across firmly.Accept the situation. Re-align priorities. What’s more important? That your child does something and be unhappy, or not do it and be happy?Think back to your childhood when making decisions for your child.Don’t be ashamed of your child’s weaknesses. Only if you know what’s wrong, you can decide if you want to make it better – and how.Show love. Hug, kiss and say it’s going to be all right; and if it isn’t going to be all right, it’s still all right – we’ll find another way, tomorrow is another day.Hows to tackle discipline and foodPriya Shirali, mother of two, is a writer. She believes that children should be given roots to keep them emotionally grounded and strong, and wings to let them soar. She tells us how she disciplines her children and makes them eat right?The best piece of advice I received as a young mother was this: when your baby is 4-5 months old, introduce her to all the possible tastes by giving her a small amount of curd, orange juice, honey, vinegar and so on. I did that with my daughter and realised that she was far more accepting of assorted tastes than most babies, who like only sweet food. Today, as a healthy 10-year-old, she eats baigan ka bharta as happily as French fries. My son, who I didn’t introduce to all the tastes at that age, is a fuss pot. I have to constantly think up ways to get him to eat his vegetables. So, I boil and grind or grate vegetables such as spinach and carrots, mash them and add them to the flour to make parathas. His disinterest in vegetables also prompts me to add ladyfinger and potatoes to mutton – sometimes I even cook rice in vegetable stock.As a family, we eat a balanced diet, and since children adopt food habits from their immediate family, my children do eat healthy. Salad, curd, fruits and healthy munchies, such as roasted wheat, are a regular part of our food. Having said that, I also give them a rather free hand when it comes to junk food – they eat wafers, and we eat out once every week, often at a restaurant of their choice. Unlike some health-fixated families, we do not resist “the Clown, the King and the Colonel” of the American fastfood empire.advertisementThe trick is to balance things out over a week. Don’t try and make every meal healthy. And don’t make eating healthy an oppressive thing. Food should be enjoyed and eaten happily for it to nourish the body. Otherwise, you could eat the most nutritious diet and still not benefit from it.When it comes to disciplining my children, I follow the “be loving, be polite, be firm” maxim. Today, parents often abdicate their parental responsibility to be their child’s friend, but I don’t believe in that. My child will have many friends in life, but only one mother. So I am friendly, but I have certain rules about behaviour, bedtime, TV and computer time, all of which have been set after a discussion with the children and keeping in mind what is best for them. But once we have decided on something, we follow it. Of course, the rules are not set in stone, and are changed as they grow older.How to tackle adolescence Minakshi S Desai, born in Nairobi, Kenya, is an interior designer and a freelance writer. She dabbles in craft, painting and pottery and loves animals. She is the mother of a teenager and tells us how to adjust with stubborn, adolescent behaviour?Like most mothers, I was obsessed with numbers and percentages. And like most 15-year-olds, my daughter Romi hated studies. Studying through the night before the exams with almost the entire syllabus to be finished was a routine affair.My temper and her stubbornness raged on neck and neck, her stubbornness winning hands down. At the end of my tether, I visited the school counsellor for help. At my sanctimonious best, I described my daughter’s behaviour, confident that the counselor would set her straight and peace would once again reign in a home that had become a bedlam. I was dumbstruck when the counsellor gave Romi a clean chit and suggested that I take a few sessions of therapy instead! To say that I was affronted is an understatement; more so because Romi was finding it hard to control her smirk.It took some doing, but I finally dragged my feet back to the counsellor. Just two sessions of therapy changed my perspective on the situation and the results were noticeable immediately. I continued with the sessions, egged on by the changes I perceived in my daughter who looked happy and relaxed. A few weeks down the line, Romi’s grades improved and though she still had to be coaxed to study, she didn’t put up much of a fight.I learnt the hard way that I was unconsciously transferring my insecurity and fear of failure onto her. I also learnt that studying more didn’t necessarily mean better marks; it could be counterproductive too! We started working as a team rather than adversaries. The time tables and charts were pasted on her cupboard. She thrived under my positive feedback and passed her ICSE exams with 85 percent; and later, her ISC with 81 percent. Today, at 18, she is a bubbly teenager, preparing for college.Help your child with studies:Set a workable time table as it helps organise your child. Induce them to stick to the plan by showing appreciation when they follow it.A 30-minute break every two hours of studying makes the child more productive.There is no need to cut the cable connection. A bit of TV viewing is just the thing your child needs when she is taking a break.The most important thing to remember is that the world isn’t going to end if your child doesn’t score well in exams.Every child who scores 90 percent in school may not be successful in life and a child who scores badly is not a failure in life.Be the change you want, and everything else that you want to change will fall into place.Parents are like tugboats; they guide the ship (or their child) into the harbour for safe anchorage.How to tackle weight “issues”Vandana Malhotra is a Delhi-based writer. Mother to an eight-year-old, she tells us how to keep an underweight child active and energeticOne of the most common complaints among Indian mothers is that their child is a fussy, picky eater who simply does not pack in enough nourishment. As I have learnt from experience, most of such talk is sheer bunkum because when you look at the child, you find that she looks perfectly healthy. When such talk gets too much, I simply point at my daughter to shut them up. At an energetic eight years, my daughter Urja only weighs 15kg. Rather shocking when you state it baldly like that, but true. Not only is she fussy about what she eats, quantity is a problem too. If I can get her to eat one chapatti at a meal with just about a half portion each of dal, veggies and dahi, I consider it an achievement.That Urja is a slow gainer became apparent at about three years of age. Though her height and head circumference were well within the average range, her weight just didn’t keep up. Her paediatrician ran a slew of tests to determine if she had any underlying chronic disorder. These included simple blood, stool and urine checks to rule out anaemia, thalassemia, thyroid, mal-absorption of nutrients and even loss of proteins through urine. Thankfully, all the tests turned out negative and she didn’t suffer from lactose or gluten intolerance either.Experts today agree that the growth potential and the growth rate of children are programmed in their DNA. Since both my husband and I were thin as children, Urja, in all probability, takes after us. The genetic factor is compounded by the fact that she’s a small eater whose calorie intake is lower than it should be. But our paediatrician assures us that as long as Urja is healthy and active, her weight should not worry us unduly. Artificial fat and protein supplements for weight gain are a big no-no as the first can affect the heart adversely and the latter, the kidneys. We’ve simply been advised to wait till Urja hits puberty, the next growth spurt.In the meantime, our job is to make Urja eat calorie-and-energy-dense food, such as cheese, pasta, nuts, dry fruit and lots of icecream. She doesn’t cooperate much but instead of forcing food down her throat and putting her back up, we simply let her eat the amount she’s comfortable with. I generally go with the smaller meals and frequent snacks formula. As my sister-in-law, an obstetrician, observes, it’s a whole lot easier for parents to encourage their child to eat than to say no if they’re growing obese.If your child is underweight, her diet should include this:Whole cream milk, fruit shakes and icecream.Energy and calorie-rich fruits such as coconut, mango and banana.Dense carbohydrates such as wheat, rice and corn.Cheese and butter.Eggs, beans and legumes for protein.Dry fruits.last_img read more

Hammer toe

first_imgDefinitionHammer toe is a deformity of the toe, in which the end of the toe is bent downward.Causes, incidence, and risk factorsHammer toe usually affects the second toe. However, it may also affect the other toes. The toe moves into a claw-like position.The most common cause of hammer toe is wearing short, narrow shoes that are too tight. The toe is forced into a bent position. Muscles and tendons in the toe tighten and become shorter.Hammer toe is more likely to occur in:Women who wear shoes that do not fit well or have high heelsChildren who keep wearing shoes they have outgrownThe condition may be present at birth (congenital) or develop over time.In rare cases, all of the toes are affected. This may be caused by a problem with the nerves or spinal cord.SymptomsThe middle joint of the toe is bent. The end part of the toe bends down into a claw-like deformity. At first, you may be able to move and straighten the toe. Over time, you will no longer be able to move the toe. It will be painful.A corn often forms on the top of the toe. A callus is found on the sole of the foot.Walking or wearing shoes can be painful.Signs and testsA physical examination of the foot confirms that you have hammer toe. The health care provider may find decreased and painful movement in the toes.TreatmentMild hammer toe in children can be treated by manipulating and splinting the affected toe.advertisementThe following changes in footwear may help relieve symptoms:Wear the right size shoes or shoes with wide toe boxes for comfort, and to avoid making hammer toe worse.Avoid high heels as much as possible.Wear soft insoles to relieve pressure on the toe.Protect the joint that is sticking out with corn pads or felt padsA foot doctor can make foot devices called hammer toe regulators or straighteners for you, or you can buy them at the store.Exercises may be helpful. You can try gentle stretching exercises if the toe is not already in a fixed position. PIcking up a towel with your toes can help stretch and straighten the small muscles in the foot.For severe hammer toe, you will need an operation to straighten the joint.The surgery often involves cutting or moving tendons and ligaments.Sometimes the bones on each side of the joint need to be connected (fused) together.Most of the time, you will go home on the same day as the surgery. The toe may still be stiff afterward, and it may be shorter.Expectations (prognosis)If the condition is treated early, you can often avoid surgery. Treatment will reduce pain and walking difficulty.Calling your health care providerIf you have hammer toe, call for an appointment with your health care provider:If you develop thick blisters or corns on your toesIf your pain gets worseIf you have difficulty walkingPreventionAvoid wearing shoes that are too short or narrow. Check childrens shoe sizes often, especially during periods of fast growth.ReferencesKrug RJ, Lee EH, Dugan S, Mashey K. Hammer toe. In: Frontera WR, Silver JK, Rizzo TD Jr., eds. Essentials of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation. 2nd ed. Philadelphia, Pa: Saunders Elsevier;2008:chap 82.Ishikawa SN, Murphy GA. Lesser toe abnormalities. In: Canale ST, Beaty JH, eds. Campbells Operative Orthopaedics. 11th ed. Philadelphia,Pa: Mosby Elsevier; 2007:chap 80.Review Date:8/11/2012Reviewed By:David Zieve, MD, MHA, Medical Director, A.D.A.M. Health Solutions, Ebix, Inc. C. Benjamin Ma, MD, Assistant Professor, Chief, Sports Medicine and Shoulder Service, UCSF Department of Orthopaedic Surgery.last_img read more

Alabama 5-Star RB Commit Damien Harris Responds To Twitter Hater, “We’ll Still Beat Tennessee”

first_imgThe week of National Signing Day is not a good time for a recruit to be on Twitter. This is typically when the trolls will be at their most frivolous, telling 17-and-18-year-old prospects how dumb they are for deciding to attend a certain university. A Tennessee fan, @ChooChooTrain00, spent much of Friday morning tweeting at five-star running back Damien Harris, an Alabama commit. The user criticized Harris’ decision to play for the Crimson Tide, telling him he’ll be riding the bench for the duration of his career in Tuscaloosa, Ala. Harris decided to respond to the hater, letting him know what will happen when Alabama faces his beloved Volunteers. @DHx34 thats what it will feel like workin that bama bench for 4 years. U got about 6 5 star rb and 5 5 star athletes ahead of you.— Shua Johnson (@ChooChooTrain00) February 6, 2015This is Harris’ response, which he later deleted. Screen Shot 2015-02-06 at 1.52.42 PMAlabama has defeated Tennessee eight years in a row. The Crimson Tide and the Volunteers will meet this fall on Oct. 24 at Bryant-Denny Stadium in Tuscaloosa.last_img read more