Tagged with: Giving/Philanthropy Ireland About Howard Lake Howard Lake is a digital fundraising entrepreneur. Publisher of UK Fundraising, the world’s first web resource for professional fundraisers, since 1994. Trainer and consultant in digital fundraising. Founder of Fundraising Camp and co-founder of GoodJobs.org.uk. Researching massive growth in giving. Bóthar, the charity that began the trend towards people buying livestock for the Third World, has expanded from the Irish Republic into Northern Ireland.Bothar is putting down permanent roots in Northern Ireland by officially opening offices in Anna House, Belfast. This is a major milestone for the 17-year-old Limerick-based organization.Peter Power T.D. Minister of State at the Department of Foreign Affairs of Ireland with responsibility for Overseas Development presided over the official opening ceremony held in Anna House.“There are many generous and giving people living in Northern Ireland and I am sure they will agree that the work Bóthar does make such a positive and active difference throughout the world,” Mr Power said.Speaking at the opening, Bóthar Chief Executive Peter Ireton offered his congratulations to the Belfast staff. “I am delighted that Bóthar has grown to such an extent that we are opening an office in Northern Ireland,” Mr. Ireton said “The people of Northern Ireland have been extremely generous to Bóthar in the past, and we hope to build on our success with the establishment of our Northern Ireland office.”The Belfast office will strive to lift the profile of Bóthar throughout Northern Ireland and spread the word about Bóthar’s special approach to sustainable world development throughout the province. The office is headed by Aoibheann Fearon – Bóthar Northern Ireland Representative.The official opening of the office is taking place in conjunction with a large airlift of goats due to fly out of Belfast Airport. Some 430 Irish Dairy goats will find their new homes in Uganda just in time for Christmas. This is Bóthar’s second major airlift from Northern Ireland, the first taking place in the spring of 2006.Bóthar, the Irish development organisation established in 1991, provides livestock and holistic training as sustainable solutions to end hunger and poverty around the world while protecting the environment. In collaboration with other organisations and partners, Bóthar supports projects in some 40 countries worldwide.www.bothar.org. Howard Lake | 18 December 2008 | News Irish third world charity expands North 24 total views, 1 views today AddThis Sharing ButtonsShare to TwitterTwitterShare to FacebookFacebookShare to LinkedInLinkedInShare to EmailEmailShare to WhatsAppWhatsAppShare to MessengerMessengerShare to MoreAddThis AddThis Sharing ButtonsShare to TwitterTwitterShare to FacebookFacebookShare to LinkedInLinkedInShare to EmailEmailShare to WhatsAppWhatsAppShare to MessengerMessengerShare to MoreAddThis
Share 1Save Print This Post Demand Propels Home Prices Upward 2 days ago April 7, 2020 1,328 Views Home / Daily Dose / The Price of Keeping People in Their Homes Servicers Navigate the Post-Pandemic World 2 days ago The Price of Keeping People in Their Homes Sign up for DS News Daily Mike Albanese is a reporter for DS News and MReport. He is a University of Alabama graduate with a degree in journalism and a minor in communications. He has worked for publications—both print and online—covering numerous beats. A Connecticut native, Albanese currently resides in Lewisville. Previous: HUD Announces Fair Housing Month Theme Next: Ginnie Mae Approves Facility to Aid in Servicer Liquidity in Daily Dose, Featured, Market Studies, News The Best Markets For Residential Property Investors 2 days ago Tagged with: Coronavirus housing market 2020 The Best Markets For Residential Property Investors 2 days ago Subscribe Data Provider Black Knight to Acquire Top of Mind 2 days ago Analysis from the Urban Institute found that the cost of housing assistance for both renters and homeowners could cost between $40.5 to $162 billion. “In the context of a $2 trillion legislative expenditure, this is a small amount that could go a long way toward stabilizing the housing market while allowing families to remain in their homes,” said the report. Agencies such as the Federal Housing Administration, Fannie Mae, Freddie Mac, the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, and the Department of Agriculture have announced foreclosure and evictions moratoriums due to the spread of COVID-19. The report said these agencies cover about 70% of all outstanding mortgage holders—33.4 million homeowners. The report adds that homeowners with private mortgages held by banks or private investors, roughly 14.6 million homeowners, are not covered. Urban Institute’s report said renters were more financially vulnerable than homeowners going into this economic downturn, as they have more of their monthly income going towards housing. Rent payment accounts for 30% of a typical rent’s household income, which is a steep increase from 19% for homeowners with a mortgage. The research ran calculations, assuming 20% of renters and 12% of homeowners will need assistance. In a worst-case scenario, they doubled the share to 40% and 24%. For their calculation, they used $912 as the median 2019 rent cost and $945 for the median 2019 mortgage payment. In these scenarios, 8.8 million renters and 5.8 million homeowners would need payment assistance, which would cost $40.5 billion for three months of $81 billion for six months. Under a worst-case scenario, 17.6 million renters and 11.6 million homeowners would need assistance, with the price tag being $81 billion for three months and $162 billion for six months. The Chief Economist at Moody’s Analytics estimates that as many as 30% of Americans with home loans—nearly 15 million households—could stop paying their loans if the economy is closed through the summer.“This is an unprecedented event,” said Susan Wachter, professor of real estate and finance at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, in an article by the Los Angeles Times. “The great financial crisis happened over a number of years. This is happening in a matter of months—a matter of weeks.” Governmental Measures Target Expanded Access to Affordable Housing 2 days ago Servicers Navigate the Post-Pandemic World 2 days ago Related Articles Demand Propels Home Prices Upward 2 days ago Coronavirus housing market 2020 2020-04-07 Mike Albanese Governmental Measures Target Expanded Access to Affordable Housing 2 days ago Data Provider Black Knight to Acquire Top of Mind 2 days ago The Week Ahead: Nearing the Forbearance Exit 2 days ago About Author: Mike Albanese
Wadham SU has passed an emergency motion proposing to lobby the college for changes to the support systems for suspended students, allowing them access to college facilities.The motion, which passed unanimously at Sunday’s SU meeting, was put forward by finalist Chloe Kane. It outlined plans to allow suspended students access to college grounds and services, and to guarantee accommodation until the end of the term in which the student rusticated, so as to allow them time to find alternative living arrangements.A system was proposed whereby “students should have a key contact in college, who is designated as the special contact for suspended status students, who has undergone welfare training [and] can advise the student of their rights.”Plans to provide “easily accessible information” about rustication were also put forward, and the motion stressed that the particular nature of each rusticatee’s case must be taken into account since “a blanket policy does not work well when each individual’s case and needs are different.”Earlier this month OUSU announced changes to the University’s procedures for suspended students, under which those who rusticate will be allowed access to Oxford-wide facilities including faculty libraries, Nexus, and other services requiring a Bod card. However, under such proposals students would still excluded from individual college grounds, amenities, accommodation, and events.One Wadham student described Sunday’s motion as “highlighting unfair treatment of rusticated students under the current system. Although at Oxford we’re told that our welfare is put first, our fantastic college-based services are off-limits to the most vulnerable at their most difficult time.”Wadham SU President Anya Metzer stated, “College have independently expressed a desire to examine the Wadham policy on suspended students and after this motion passed unanimously we have a strong mandate to pursue the changes outlined in the motion. On the heels of OUSU’s recent triumph, students are engaging with this issue across campus, and I am keen to negotiate for the rights of suspended students as valued members of our community.”The motion was submitted following a survey conducted through the Wadham SU Facebook page, which assessed the attitudes of Wadham students, both current and suspended, towards rustication. Of the 149 surveyed, 97 per cent felt they had received ‘little or no information on the issue of suspension’ and 92 per cent felt they ‘should have been better informed’.Charlotte Cooper Beglin, Wadham SU’s Access Officer, commented, “Students most often suspend their studies for very difficult health or personal reasons, and they should still be seen as members of the college community and given the support they need.“I’m glad we’re starting a conversation with college about it. Hopefully it will mean no-one feels ostracised as a suspended student and everyone gets equally good care.”
After hearing the testimony of those who would be affected by the Douglas Administration’s proposed rescissions, the Joint Fiscal Committee determined that the state cannot solve its budget shortfall by disproportionately placing the burden on the backs of the most vulnerable Vermonters. Instead Senate President Pro Tem Peter Shumlin and Representative Shap Smith worked with members of the Joint Fiscal Committee to craft a counter-proposal that better serves Vermonters.The Joint Fiscal Committee recommended and approved its counter-proposal to reduce the severe impact of its rescissions on the mental health community, working parents, and small businesses.The plan reduces these impacts by asking the mental health and developmental disabilities agencies to accept a 5% half year cut, instead of an 8% half year cut; postpones the implementation of the childcare eligibility change until April 1, 2009 instead of eliminating the eligibility change; and accepts only half the reduction in the Individual Development Accounts and Micro business lending program. These measures not only reduce the impact on vulnerable and working Vermonters, but send $2.2 million more into the community than the administrations proposal, due to federal matching funds.Senator Shumlin and Representative Smith expressed optimism that federal stimulus measures will reduce the need for rescissions to mental health.”In these difficult times, we must make many difficult decisions now so our choices and their impacts do not become even more painful in the next year,” said President Pro Tem Shumlin. “Yet, these decisions must be measured and thoughtful.””We made these changes with an eye to the future,” said Representative Smith. “Without adequate mental health services, vulnerable Vermonters may end up on our streets and in our hospitals, which costs more in the long run. Working parents rely on access to affordable child care and the micro businesses program is more important than ever as Vermonters pursue lasting economic opportunity in these difficult times.”The legislature’s package does not alter the total $19.7 million in rescissions. Instead, the measures refocus the states priorities to better protect Vermonters who rely on mental health and childcare services and preserve jobs and economic opportunities for working Vermonters in this time of economic crisis.The plan equally reduces the state’s expenditure of Vermont Housing and Conservation Board funds and unobligated Next Generation funds, transfers unused energy loan program funds, accepts the Judiciary’s proposed savings, changes the funding source for the drivers’ education grants and the technical center leadership education grants to the education fund, and re-assesses the value of the 5% reduction to exempt employees to reflect benefits and non-general fund savings.”Every state program serves some Vermont community,” Senator Shumlin said. “We recognize that reducing any of these services impacts Vermonters in very real ways. While these decisions are difficult we believe that this alternative is fiscally prudent and protects the most vulnerable among us, jobs, and the child care system rather than proceeding with a new program. In all, it better serves Vermonters.”
“Thank you very much to all who accompanied me at this time, especially my family, my parents, brothers, godmother, friends and @alemaglietti” Gutierrez then retweeted congratulatory messages from followers, while Newcastle also tweeted their congratulations, posting: ” Everyone at #NUFC is delighted to share the news that @elgalgojonas has been discharged from hospital in Argentina #UnitedWithJonas’.” Gutierrez joined Newcastle from Real Mallorca in July 2008 and became a fans’ favourite when he played a starring role in helping the club win the Championship in his second season in the north-east. However, he was largely unused by manager Alan Pardew last season and was allowed to join Norwich on loan for the second half of the campaign, where he made his last league appearance in the Canaries’ 1-0 defeat to West Brom in April. Press Association The 31-year-old revealed in September that he was having treatment following the diagnosis of testicular cancer in his native Argentina. But he took to Twitter on Monday evening to announce, in Spanish: “Today I was given a medical discharge. Newcastle winger Jonas Gutierrez has been given the all-clear from cancer.
ARCADIA, Calif. (March 23, 2017)–A bit rank early, Irish-bred September Stars leveled off when it counted under Gary Stevens, as she took Thursday’s $56,000 Santa Anita allowance feature by a measured length while getting a mile and one eighth on turf in 1:48.16. Idle since well beaten in England on Sept. 23, September Stars is trained by Paddy Gallagher.Breaking from the rail in a field of six older fillies and mares, September Stars, a 4-year-old filly, was a handful with Stevens under the wire the first time, but settled some down the backstretch. A close fourth behind a three-horse spread turning for home, Stevens angled to the rail furlong out and September Stars rocketed to the lead and won in-hand late over Mrs. Norris, who had first run on her turning for home.“I saw that she had pulled some in her races over there (England),” said Stevens. “Wow…she’s got some gears.”Off at 5-1, September Stars paid $13.40, $6.60 and $3.80. Owned by Andrew Rosen and Edward Easton, she picked up $33,600 for the win, increasing her earnings to $49,201. She now has three wins from nine career starts.“She had trained nice,” said Gallagher, himself born and bred on the Emerald Isle. “A mile and one eighth looks like a really good distance for her.”Ridden by Victor Espinoza, Mrs. Norris, who finished 2 ½ lengths in front of Sweet Dragon Fly, was off at 6-1 and paid $5.60 and $3.40.English-bred Sweet Dragon Fly, who was ridden by Joe Talamo, was off at 9-1 and paid $5.00 to show.Heavily favored at even money, Radiantly, who was ridden by Brice Blanc, was done three furlongs from home and finished fifth.Fractions on the race were 23.61, 48.25, 1:12.66 and 1:36.89.
Six South Africans have made the 2015 Forbes list of the 30 most promising African entrepreneurs under 30.(Image: Forbes Magazine)Brand South Africa reporterMonths of research have whittled down Forbes shortlist of 150 entrepreneurs nominated by readers and editorial team to a list of just 30. The final 30 were decided by a panel of judges from across the continent.“We worked for weeks, verifying and investigating, to whittle it down,” said a statement from Forbes Africa. “We favoured entrepreneurs with fresh ideas and took into account their business size, location, struggles and determination.”Forbes Africa called the list “thought-provoking and forward-looking”. The list applauds successful companies across a number of sectors, but there is a strong technology influence – 17 of the companies headed by these entrepreneurs are either tech-based or have technology as their base, such as through apps or online platforms.One of the most intelligent young brains in the universe and on Forbes 30 Under 30 list, Ludwick Marishane. (Image: Youth Village)Besides the six South Africans, there are five from Kenya, five from Nigeria, three from Uganda, two each from Cameroon, Zimbabwe and Ghana, and one each from Mali, Malawi, Republic of Congo, Ethiopia and Rwanda.South Africans on the list are:Bheki Kunene, 27, founder of Mind Trix Media: Mind Trix Media is a creative design company based in Gugulethu, Cape Town. He created eight jobs and a profit with his website-building company. According to Forbes, Kunene had a difficult start. He was falsely accused of murder and suffered a skull fracture in a car accident. Kunene survived to prosper, a lesson to entrepreneurs that if it did not kill you, or imprison you, it made you stronger, said Forbes Africa. That he managed to overcome these odds and build a powerful company earned him a place on the list.Doug Hoernle, 25, founder of Rethink Education: Rethink Education was established in an effort to make current technology more useful in the schooling system. “We saw the gap in the market where you find people paying R100 000 a year in school fees and yet they still struggle with fractions,” Hoernle said.Rethink’s platforms give pupils access to high school mathematics and science content in a chat-styled interface via mobile phones and the web. To date, Rethink Education has distributed maths and science content to more than 500 000 South Africans and is launching in Nigeria, Ghana and Zimbabwe.Julie Alexander Fourie, 28, founder of iFix: Fourie started iFix in 2006 from his residence room at Stellenbosch University. The company repairs broken and faulty Apple products and Samsung smartphones, and employs 40 people across the country. iFix services more than 4 000 clients a month through its branches in Johannesburg, Cape Town and Durban.Fourie started the company in 2006 in his University of Stellenbosch dorm room, helping colleagues and friends repair broken and faulty iPods and computers. (Image: Speakerpedia)Ludwick Marishane, 25, founder of Headboy Industries: While still in high school, Marishane developed DryBath, “a gel that does all the work of a bath without water”. After school, he founded Headboy Industries, through which he released the product.The idea for DryBath was inspired by a friend of Marishane’s who was too lazy to bath. “Why doesn’t someone invent something that you can put on your skin and then you don’t have to bathe?” asked the friend. Marishane, born in Limpopo, was voted the best student entrepreneur in the world by the Entrepreneurs’ Organisation and Google named him as one of the most intelligent young brains in the universe.Max Hussmann, 29, founder, Elegance Group: Hussmann’s aviation business, Elegance Group, includes Elegance Air, sport consulting and aviation consulting. He was born in Accra and grew up in Germany, but now lives in South Africa.Elegance offers “the hour package flying principle” with chartered airlines, where companies are able to buy bulk hours of 25 to 50 hours and use them when it suits them. Hussman is also a 2016 swimming Olympic hopeful.Rupert Bryant, 29, co-founder of Web Africa: At just 14, Bryant dropped out of school and started running his own web development company. Two years later he became the co-founder of Web Africa, one of South Africa’s biggest internet service providers.Web Africa, today an $11-million (R133.5-million) a year business, was started with no money. In 2014, Bryant relaunched Accommodation Direct, an online tourism business that specialises in short-term accommodation rentals.Young Africans to watchThe other top 30 under 30 entrepreneurs, in alphabetical order, are:Abiola Olaniran, 26, Nigeria, founder, GamsoleAffiong Williams, 29, Nigeria, founder, ReelfruitAlain Nteff, 22, Cameroon, founder, Gifted MomAli-shah Jivraj, 27, Uganda, chief executive, Royal ElectronicsArthur Zang, 27, Cameroon, founder, CardiopadZangBankole Cardoso, 26, Nigeria, co-founder, Easy Taxi NigeriaBest Ayiorworth, 23, Uganda, founder, GipmoCatherine Mahugu, 27, Kenya, co-founder, SokoClarisse Iribagiza, 26, Rwanda, founder and chief executive, HeHe LabsClinton Mutambo, 25, Zimbabwe, founder, Esaja.ComEllen Chilemba, 21, Malawi, founder, TiwaleEmeka Akano, 28, Nigeria, co-founder, Founder2BeIssam Chleuh, 28, Mali, founder and chief executive, Africa Impact GroupJoel Mwale, 22, Kenya, founder, Skydrop EnterprisesKennedy Kitheka, 25, Kenya, founder, FundaMubarak Muyika, 20, Kenya, founder of Zagace LimitedOla Orekunrin, 29, Nigeria, medical doctor and founder, The Flying DoctorsRaindolf Owusu, 24, Ghana, founder, Oasis WebsoftRonak Shah, 27, Kenya, founder, Kronex Chemicals LimitedSangu Delle, 28, Ghana, founder, Golden Palm InvestmentsSenai Wolderufael, 28, Ethiopia, founder of Feed Green Ethiopia Exports CompanyStephen Sembuya, 28, Uganda, co-founder, Pink Food IndustriesTakunda Chingonzoh, 22, Zimbabwe, co-founder, Neolab TechnologyVerone Mankou, 28, Republic of Congo, tech entrepreneur, founder and chief executive, VMKSource: Forbes Magazine Would you like to use this article in your publication or on your website? 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Force is the choice of those who lack influence. Force is the choice of those who lack the ability to produce results through positive methods, like influence and character.Force is the choice of bullies, the choice of the truly powerless.The person who threatens others, no matter how much they try to veil that threat, is a bully. Bullying isn’t only the threat of physical violence, it is also the use of psychological threats.Leaders and people of influence don’t use threats. They don’t need to because they achieve results through positive means.The person who uses intimidation to get what they want is a bully. They choose intimidation because they believe they lack any real ability to produce the outcome they want. Usually, intimidation is employed by cowards, many of whom were taught to use it by other cowards.Most of the time the bully uses intimidation to impress other people. They try to find love, connection, acceptance, and approval by entertaining those whose approval they seek. They’re trying to replace something missing, employing methods that never provide it in a healthy form.People worth following would never consider intimidation as a choice for producing results.Bullies make other people feel small. They mock other people, sometimes to their face, and sometimes behind their backs. Either way, they are doing harm to others. Bullies try to ostracize other people, making them feel like outsiders, like they’re excluded. They hope to ingratiate themselves to others by eliminating people they believe to be weak, or people who threaten their significance.People with true character never tear other people down; they build them up. In fact, leaders, people with real influence, see something in others that they don’t see in themselves and challenge them to become the best version of themselves.Physical force, no matter how small and insignificant, is bullying. Even if that physical force is so minor that no real damage is done, it produces the damage via psychological impact. Those who feel the need to dominate others resort to force when they are at their very weakest and most desperate.You condone bullying when you allow it to exist in any form. You have a duty to protect those who are being bullied and do not have the strength or power to defend themselves—especially when you are a leader. In fact, defending others from harm is an act of leadership and an expression of your values.Real power exists in compassion, not force.
Vatsala Kaul Banerjee is the editorial director of Children’s & Reference Books, Hatchette India. She has also had stints in advertising and print and is a mother of two – here she talks about how dealing with one’s child’s setbacks is more about fixing oneself than her.You know this prayer:”God, give us grace to acceptwith serenity,The things that cannot bechanged,Courage to change the thingswhich should be changed,And the wisdom to distinguishone from the other…”I didn’t think of this, Reinhold Niebuhr did, and he would’ve made a good mother. After 10 years of seesaw parenting – sometimes up, sometimes down, and sometimes middling – I can say with certainty that dealing with your child’s setbacks is more about fixing yourself than your child… Or it should be.Let’s start with an easy quiz. Tick the ones you think are your child’s setbacks:Poor marksWearing glassesPhysical or behavioural handicapNot being an eager performerThe ones you tick (or don’t) will help you figure out what kind of parent you are. If you ticked all five, I’d say that you have very high, probably unrealistic, expectations from your child. If you ticked one, then I’d say you’re likely to be a happy parent who allows her child his/her imperfections and weaknesses. And if you ticked two-three options, you’d be able to deal well with most of your child’s setbacks.I come of a mother who never let me think that losing vision in one eye at the age of two, and being faced with the prospect of going blind, and then having an extremely ugly squint till I was a teenager, was a “setback”. She didn’t go about it in a feature story “How I went about raising my daughter’s self-esteem” type of way; she just treated me normally and I learned to deal with it. Later, when the squint was fixed, but never quite completely, boyfriends would tell me how beautiful my eyes were, and I never doubted it. It’s all about perception, isn’t it?advertisementSo, when one of my daughters needed glasses at the age of five, sure I was concerned, but more about how she would deal with sports until she was old enough for lenses, and not that she had glasses “already!”. She also hated being on stage – her young, tattooed guitar teacher said it was cool that she didn’t want to learn songs to perform and would rather learn the chords first. It’s strange that I birthed a shy child, but there’s no one quite like her, and that’s fine with me. But of course, when she does badly in tests, I get upset because she knew everything – I’m human, after all, and I give her all the spiel about “doing your best”. And, of course, I hurt when her best friend suddenly decides to dump her at the behest of her mother, because I know my little girl is bewildered by this sudden and cruel change of heart, and I sit down and explain why some people can suddenly go off colour. It’s all part of the life deal. It’s going to happen a lot. Do the run up, hop, step and jump over it.What I would think could be serious setbacks in my children:If they didn’t giggle uncontrollably at nothing at all.If they did not think that 16-yearold Justin Bieber is the best singer in the world.If they did not want to learn new things in life.If they had only one friend.If they thought I know everything better than they do.If they thought everything can be found on/solved by the Internet.If they didn’t still make handmade cards for birthdays.If they didn’t run to get the first rights to hold the maid’s little baby.If they blame things that go wrong on other people all the time.If they say “That’s your problem!” or “So what can I do?”.I know what’s the right thing to do, and I try to get there, sometimes slip-sliding away, sometimes getting there. Every parent has to set the measures for their children – and themselves. Love is more important than anything else, and how to fix a problem and get over a disappointment is the key to waking up smiling next morning, ready to kiss life with a loud smack – and your children, too!Here are my ways of smiling when my children suffer a setback:Read to them or have them read stories of disappointments and achievements. No great person ever became that without both.advertisementHow can you explain the situation to your child so that he doesn’t think it’s a matter of life and death? Figure this out. We’re so involved in making our children smart, that we forget that they are still small and vulnerable.Don’t refuse help and advice, but don’t get pressurised by other parents. Their lives are different; their children are different, and their values may be entirely different, too. Live by yours.Don’t let other people treat your child with pity or sympathy. Tell them politely, and if they don’t get it, talk plain. Get the point across firmly.Accept the situation. Re-align priorities. What’s more important? That your child does something and be unhappy, or not do it and be happy?Think back to your childhood when making decisions for your child.Don’t be ashamed of your child’s weaknesses. Only if you know what’s wrong, you can decide if you want to make it better – and how.Show love. Hug, kiss and say it’s going to be all right; and if it isn’t going to be all right, it’s still all right – we’ll find another way, tomorrow is another day.Hows to tackle discipline and foodPriya Shirali, mother of two, is a writer. She believes that children should be given roots to keep them emotionally grounded and strong, and wings to let them soar. She tells us how she disciplines her children and makes them eat right?The best piece of advice I received as a young mother was this: when your baby is 4-5 months old, introduce her to all the possible tastes by giving her a small amount of curd, orange juice, honey, vinegar and so on. I did that with my daughter and realised that she was far more accepting of assorted tastes than most babies, who like only sweet food. Today, as a healthy 10-year-old, she eats baigan ka bharta as happily as French fries. My son, who I didn’t introduce to all the tastes at that age, is a fuss pot. I have to constantly think up ways to get him to eat his vegetables. So, I boil and grind or grate vegetables such as spinach and carrots, mash them and add them to the flour to make parathas. His disinterest in vegetables also prompts me to add ladyfinger and potatoes to mutton – sometimes I even cook rice in vegetable stock.As a family, we eat a balanced diet, and since children adopt food habits from their immediate family, my children do eat healthy. Salad, curd, fruits and healthy munchies, such as roasted wheat, are a regular part of our food. Having said that, I also give them a rather free hand when it comes to junk food – they eat wafers, and we eat out once every week, often at a restaurant of their choice. Unlike some health-fixated families, we do not resist “the Clown, the King and the Colonel” of the American fastfood empire.advertisementThe trick is to balance things out over a week. Don’t try and make every meal healthy. And don’t make eating healthy an oppressive thing. Food should be enjoyed and eaten happily for it to nourish the body. Otherwise, you could eat the most nutritious diet and still not benefit from it.When it comes to disciplining my children, I follow the “be loving, be polite, be firm” maxim. Today, parents often abdicate their parental responsibility to be their child’s friend, but I don’t believe in that. My child will have many friends in life, but only one mother. So I am friendly, but I have certain rules about behaviour, bedtime, TV and computer time, all of which have been set after a discussion with the children and keeping in mind what is best for them. But once we have decided on something, we follow it. Of course, the rules are not set in stone, and are changed as they grow older.How to tackle adolescence Minakshi S Desai, born in Nairobi, Kenya, is an interior designer and a freelance writer. She dabbles in craft, painting and pottery and loves animals. She is the mother of a teenager and tells us how to adjust with stubborn, adolescent behaviour?Like most mothers, I was obsessed with numbers and percentages. And like most 15-year-olds, my daughter Romi hated studies. Studying through the night before the exams with almost the entire syllabus to be finished was a routine affair.My temper and her stubbornness raged on neck and neck, her stubbornness winning hands down. At the end of my tether, I visited the school counsellor for help. At my sanctimonious best, I described my daughter’s behaviour, confident that the counselor would set her straight and peace would once again reign in a home that had become a bedlam. I was dumbstruck when the counsellor gave Romi a clean chit and suggested that I take a few sessions of therapy instead! To say that I was affronted is an understatement; more so because Romi was finding it hard to control her smirk.It took some doing, but I finally dragged my feet back to the counsellor. Just two sessions of therapy changed my perspective on the situation and the results were noticeable immediately. I continued with the sessions, egged on by the changes I perceived in my daughter who looked happy and relaxed. A few weeks down the line, Romi’s grades improved and though she still had to be coaxed to study, she didn’t put up much of a fight.I learnt the hard way that I was unconsciously transferring my insecurity and fear of failure onto her. I also learnt that studying more didn’t necessarily mean better marks; it could be counterproductive too! We started working as a team rather than adversaries. The time tables and charts were pasted on her cupboard. She thrived under my positive feedback and passed her ICSE exams with 85 percent; and later, her ISC with 81 percent. Today, at 18, she is a bubbly teenager, preparing for college.Help your child with studies:Set a workable time table as it helps organise your child. Induce them to stick to the plan by showing appreciation when they follow it.A 30-minute break every two hours of studying makes the child more productive.There is no need to cut the cable connection. A bit of TV viewing is just the thing your child needs when she is taking a break.The most important thing to remember is that the world isn’t going to end if your child doesn’t score well in exams.Every child who scores 90 percent in school may not be successful in life and a child who scores badly is not a failure in life.Be the change you want, and everything else that you want to change will fall into place.Parents are like tugboats; they guide the ship (or their child) into the harbour for safe anchorage.How to tackle weight “issues”Vandana Malhotra is a Delhi-based writer. Mother to an eight-year-old, she tells us how to keep an underweight child active and energeticOne of the most common complaints among Indian mothers is that their child is a fussy, picky eater who simply does not pack in enough nourishment. As I have learnt from experience, most of such talk is sheer bunkum because when you look at the child, you find that she looks perfectly healthy. When such talk gets too much, I simply point at my daughter to shut them up. At an energetic eight years, my daughter Urja only weighs 15kg. Rather shocking when you state it baldly like that, but true. Not only is she fussy about what she eats, quantity is a problem too. If I can get her to eat one chapatti at a meal with just about a half portion each of dal, veggies and dahi, I consider it an achievement.That Urja is a slow gainer became apparent at about three years of age. Though her height and head circumference were well within the average range, her weight just didn’t keep up. Her paediatrician ran a slew of tests to determine if she had any underlying chronic disorder. These included simple blood, stool and urine checks to rule out anaemia, thalassemia, thyroid, mal-absorption of nutrients and even loss of proteins through urine. Thankfully, all the tests turned out negative and she didn’t suffer from lactose or gluten intolerance either.Experts today agree that the growth potential and the growth rate of children are programmed in their DNA. Since both my husband and I were thin as children, Urja, in all probability, takes after us. The genetic factor is compounded by the fact that she’s a small eater whose calorie intake is lower than it should be. But our paediatrician assures us that as long as Urja is healthy and active, her weight should not worry us unduly. Artificial fat and protein supplements for weight gain are a big no-no as the first can affect the heart adversely and the latter, the kidneys. We’ve simply been advised to wait till Urja hits puberty, the next growth spurt.In the meantime, our job is to make Urja eat calorie-and-energy-dense food, such as cheese, pasta, nuts, dry fruit and lots of icecream. She doesn’t cooperate much but instead of forcing food down her throat and putting her back up, we simply let her eat the amount she’s comfortable with. I generally go with the smaller meals and frequent snacks formula. As my sister-in-law, an obstetrician, observes, it’s a whole lot easier for parents to encourage their child to eat than to say no if they’re growing obese.If your child is underweight, her diet should include this:Whole cream milk, fruit shakes and icecream.Energy and calorie-rich fruits such as coconut, mango and banana.Dense carbohydrates such as wheat, rice and corn.Cheese and butter.Eggs, beans and legumes for protein.Dry fruits.
TagsTransfersAbout the authorCarlos VolcanoShare the loveHave your say Barcelona ask Arsenal boss Emery about Rabiotby Carlos Volcano10 months agoSend to a friendShare the loveArsenal boss Unai Emery has spoken to Barcelona chief Eric Abidal about Adrien Rabiot.Barca are chasing the PSG midfielder, who is off contract in June and Abidal has sought the opinion of Emery on the player, says AS.Emery worked with Rabiot for two years as PSG coach and had only positive things to say.Abidal is keen on signing the France international, though also has alternative midfield transfer targets under consideration.Arsenal have also been linked, though given Emery’s willingness to recommend Rabiot does suggest he isn’t a genuine target for the Gunners.